Am I wrong for asking my neighbor to keep it down after 11pm?
You have work in the morning and they have a house full of people. Who's actually being unreasonable here? We ruled on it — read the fault split.
The neighbor who knocked
They have to be up early and the bass has been shaking their wall since ten, so asking once, politely, at a reasonable hour isn't an attack — it's the bare minimum of living near other people. They waited over an hour before saying anything and only knocked because nothing changed on its own.
The neighbor throwing the party
It's a weekend, it's their home, and people are allowed to have friends over without treating every laugh as a violation. They'd have happily turned it down if anyone had mentioned it earlier instead of showing up at the door already annoyed.
The verdict
Who's at fault
The neighbor throwing the party is more in the wrong here. Asking someone to turn it down after 11 isn't rude — it's the deal you make when you share a wall. Nobody owes their neighbor silence at 8pm on a Saturday, but by late night the person trying to sleep has the stronger claim, and "it's my house" stops covering noise that travels into someone else's bedroom. That said, the knock lands better when it comes as a heads-up instead of a complaint, and a text before the party would have prevented the whole thing. The person hosting carries most of this one for letting it run loud and late without checking in.
“Your house ends where your neighbor's bedroom wall begins.”
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