Am I wrong for not wanting my in-laws to stay with us for a whole week?
Your partner said yes to a week-long in-law visit without asking you. Are you the jerk for wanting less, or did they overstep? Here's who's actually wrong.
The reluctant partner
Their home is the one place they get to decompress, and a solid week of hosting with zero privacy is genuinely draining. They were never asked — the visit was booked and announced, not discussed, so agreeing to it feels like being steamrolled in their own house.
The defending spouse
These are their parents, who traveled a long way and rarely visit, so a week feels normal and cutting it short feels cold. Family is family, and they don't think asking their partner to be gracious for a few days is a big ask.
The verdict
Who's at fault
The defending spouse is more in the wrong here. The real problem here isn't the week — it's committing to a week without a conversation first. Wanting your own space back isn't heartless, and hosting anyone for seven straight days is a lot to carry. But the reluctant partner loses some ground by going straight to a flat no instead of floating a compromise like a shorter stay or a nearby hotel for a couple nights. The bigger fault sits with whoever locked in the plan and then presented it as done.
“Your parents are always welcome — but your calendar isn't a group text you get to answer for both of us.”
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