Am I wrong for not wanting to be the designated driver every time?
You don't drink, so somehow you're the one driving everyone home at 2am — every single time. Here's who's actually in the wrong when the DD finally says no.
The designated driver
They never volunteered for a permanent job — the group just quietly decided that not drinking means always driving, and now every night out ends with a sober 2am round of drop-offs across town. They're also the only one who leaves early-ish, stays boring, and eats the gas and mileage while everyone else splits an Uber-free night.
The friends
Nobody ever forced them into it — they offered, repeatedly, and driving is genuinely easier for the person who's sober anyway. If it had become a problem, one sentence months ago would have fixed it instead of a resentment that nobody knew was building.
The verdict
Who's at fault
The friends is more in the wrong here. Not drinking isn't a volunteer form. A favor you do once is a favor; a favor you do every weekend without anyone asking has quietly turned into a job, and the group let it happen because it was convenient for them. That's the bigger share of this. But the driver also spent months saying yes while getting angrier, and nobody can read your mind through a cheerful "sure, I'll drive." Say it out loud, then rotate it — someone else pays for the ride, or the group covers gas, or you cab it and split.
“Being sober isn't a job title, and driving everyone home isn't a personality trait.”
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